“Two are better than one because they have a good reward for their labor. For if they fall, one will lift up his companion. But woe to him who is alone when he falls, for he has no one to help him when he falls, for he has no one to help him up. Again, if two lie down together, they will keep warm; but how can one be warm alone? Though one may be overpowered by another, two can withstand him. And a threefold cord is not quickly broken.” --Ecclesiastes 4: 9-12
The very first institution God founded upon the Earth was the home (Gen. 2: 18-25). Marriage between a man and woman was established by God. Scripture places tremendous emphasis on the sanctity of marriage. Marriage is integral to His plan. If we have weak marriages, we will have weak families. If we have weak families, we will have weak churches. If we have weak churches, we will have weak communities. And if we have weak communities, we will have a weak nation. That is why He demands that marriages be treated as the sacred treasures that they are.
Marriages are meant to last a lifetime. However, every marriage has problems. Starting at the honeymoon, all the way through, couples can struggle with their differences, their weaknesses, and how they deal with the crises that life brings them. Every marriage sees conflict. Every marriage will have its share of highs and lows. Marriage is not just about sentimental feelings. It is also an act of the will--a determination to give love in a form that others can accept. I would like to challenge you, as couples, to work on your marriages in this upcoming year. Make it a priority. To help you, I’d like to share with you the 10 Commandments of Marriage drawn from “The Art of Understanding Your Mate,” by Cecil G. Osborne.
We have 5 commandments for wives, and 5 commandments for husbands. So, ladies first:
Now, the men:
Success in marriage does not depend on finding the right person so much as it does on being the right person. Focus on the person you can change--YOURSELF! It is not marriages that fail, it is people that fail. All that marriage does is reveal that failure.
I heard it once said, “A marriage is never finished, the lesson is never learned, the effort is never at an end. Marriage, like life, is a matter of solving the little things. The big things generally take care of themselves.” And remember, success in marriage does not depend on finding the right person so much as it does on being the right person.
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